At first glance, he is so charismatic and attractive. His attitude is firm, his speech is also steady, really a real man. You also become excited when he showed a protective attitude when there were some nosy men who tried to interfere. However, no matter whether a man is jealous, too worried, or just because he feels insecure, this does not give him the right to control you. Healthy relationships should be based on respect and support for each other, not to curb and manage their partners. Does your boyfriend really want the best? Or has he gone to the stage of deciding (almost) everything for you? Let us test together through the following 5 signs.
He likes to criticize
He wants to help with the reason he wants to make your life better. But, you often feel humiliated because the average standard of living. Men who like to criticize the attitudes and choices you make can be said to have a ‘talent’ like to set. You may accept feedback that can make you better, but politely decline his suggestions that do not fit with conscience.
He says what to do with your body
Monitoring your food, convincing you to take dancing classes, or preventing you from cutting hair, his obsession with your health and appearance can be a snare that curbs freedom. Say that you really appreciate the attention, but emphasize also that you know what is best for your own body.
He belittles your friends
Controller man always has a way to try to isolate his girlfriend from the social environment, either from female friend especially male. The trick may be to refuse to accompany come to school reunion, or always want to know with whom and where about you. Another tactic is to vilify your friend in front of you. If he refuses to accompany you to an event, then go on your own. Invite a female friend, and still enjoy your association.
He does not support anything outside of himself
If a man feels unsafe, then usually they tend to like to set. This is what drives him against everything unrelated to him. He makes you paralyzed so can not develop. Anything goes, as long as he’s there. If you already have a plan with friends, then tell him. Invite him to join when possible, but if not, just go on.
He does not believe in you
You are not allowed to drive a car. You almost never even decide on the menu order at the restaurant. All this is certainly no longer a protective attitude, but it has turned into restraints. What would be a relationship without trust? Do you still want to stick with this kind of man?
Then what about you who have a husband-type controller? Dare to take a stand. If you dare to determine attitudes, then your husband will know that you are the wife who should be at his side, not under his feet.